Heres the scenario: you’ve been dying to ask this girl out for a couple of months already and she finally said yes. Now that the date has been green-lighted, how do you make your first date memorable enough to make her say yes again for a second time?
Here are some tips to make sure that you get to go out with the girl of your dreams again.
Get to know the girl
They say that knowledge is power and if so you’re going to need all you can get to put the odds in your favor.
Find out about the things that she likes and incorporate that information into your plans for your first date. Does she like wine? Make sure that there’s a glass or two during dinner. Does she love a certain restaurant? Make a reservation there for your first dinner. Is she a fan of a certain actor? Buy two tickets for his latest flick.
Since this date is meant to impress her and make her remember you (in a very good way), you have to go all out and make this first date one for the books.
Be the man with a plan
If your idea of a first date is dinner, movie, and then a walk in the park afterwards then there is a big possibility that there will be no second date. Don’t get me wrong, there’s nothing wrong with that plan…its just a tad bit too boring.
Try to come up with something a little different, if possible (something that she’ll definitely remember) and make sure to plan ahead. A poorly planned date might leave your girl thinking that you’re disorganized, careless, and not thoughtful.
And always have a backup plan.
Prepare topics for conversation
The success (or failure) of a date will be judged by the quality of the conversation. Major disasters may pepper your date but it will still be remember fondly if the conversation was scintillating or, at the very least, funny. If you fail to make the conversation interesting your date will get bored as hell (and you don’t need me to tell you that is not a good thing).
Start with topics that you both find fascinating so you can exchange thoughts and ideas. Avoid topics that are too serious (such as religion or politics) at least not on a first date. Its a good idea to pop some jokes from time to time.
Laughing makes a girl comfortable and if you can make her laugh then you’re already halfway there.
I know, I know…easier said than done. You’re nervous, she’s nervous, you’re both nervous.
But if you’re going to make this date successful however, you have got to relax. Its pretty hard for a girl to relax on date if the boy she’s with is jittery and nervous (relaxation is a prerequisite to having fun which is one of the things you’re trying to achieve on this date). Try to keep calm and act as smooth as possible during awkward moments such as spilling drinks on your pants (or worse, hers) or burping loudly in public.
Try not to over think things as it will just make you more nervous.
Don’t pretend to be someone else
Don’t pretend to be the coolest guy in town or the popular kid if that’s not you. Not only are you perpetuating a lie, if she ends up falling in love with you shell be falling in love with someone you are not.
Put your best foot forward and let the rest happen as it is.
That being said, this is not the time to admit all the vulnerabilities and insecurities that beset you (such things are best avoided on first dates). While girls admire honesty you just might very well scare her off if you overwhelm her with an avalanche of life issues.
Last but not the least, have fun!
Fun is contagious and if you’re having fun, chances are she’s going to have some fun as well.
Good luck on your date!